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Hi there

Today I am going to move away from my topic on self development to a topic which is also interesting. I was reading an article when this topic ‘Why Men Should Drive at Night’ caught my attention.

I always have difficulty driving at night and after reading this article, it sort of make sense to me why women find this so.

In this article by Allan and Babara Pease, they mention that while woman can see better in the dark than a man, especially at the red end of the spectrum, a man’s eyes allow for better long-distance vision over a narrower field, which gives him much better - and therefore safer - long-distance night vision than a woman.

Combined with his right brain spatial ability, a man can separate and identify the movement of other vehicles on the road ahead and behind. Most women can testify to what is a kind of night blindness; the inability to distinguish which side of the road approaching traffic is on. This is a task that a man’s hunting vision is equipped to handle. What this means is on long trips, men should drive at night and women drive in the day.

The article further said that men suffer greater eyestrain than women because their eyes are configured for long distances and must be constantly readjusted to look at a computer screen or read a newspaper. A woman ’s eyes are better suited for close-range activities, giving her a longer working time on fine detail. As such, an average woman is excellent at threading a needle and reading detail on a computer screen as her brain is wired for coordinated fine-motor capability in a small area.

If you find this topic refreshing, do leave a comment below.

I will touch on ways to establish credibility in furtherance to my earlier blog on building self-confidence in my next post.

Yours truly,

Nancy

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Hi

Today we shall focus on strategies that may help overcome self-defeating thought patterns.

1. Self-Acceptance

What does one mean by self-acceptance? It is the ability to accept ourselves while focusing on our positive side ie. our qualities, strengths, traits - that make us who we are. When our focus is on these areas, both confidence and self-esteem are positively influenced.

It is common for people to focus on their weaknesses instead of their strengths, they do more damage than good. We must help ourselves and others to focus on the positive pictures.

Self-Respect

We should focus on our past successes and achieve and to respect ourself for the good we have done. It is always easy to dwell on our failures. It is always also easier for others to point them out to us.

When we spend our time pondering on our successes, perspective changes and then confidence sets in.

It will be good to create a Success listing. This is a list where you put in all successes and accomplishments that we have had throughout our lives. Initially, it may be difficult to build a list, but with persistence we can keep adding to our list and building ourconfidence. Think of what you have done which you consider a success. Continue throwing these successes into your listing box; you will be shocked to find that your success may even surpasses your failures.

Self-Talk

When we add Self-Acceptance and Self-Respect together, we create a self-talk backed up by evidence. The self-talk is simply a way to create an argument that would hold up under scrutiny.

It simply means we discuss with our inner self our acceptance and respect of one self. Build up this confidence of your self and accept yourself as you are. If you have something which you feel is negative, start by improving it.

Thoughts like “I am not beautiful” ; “I can’t do it” should be thrown into the trash and replaced by “I am beautiful, likeable”; “I feel good” ; “I CAN DO IT” ; “I CAN SUCCEED”.

You will be surprise that by putting all these negative thoughts away and replacing them with POSITIVE THOUGHTS, we are able to take control of our THINKING!

Take Risks

Approach new experiences as OPPORTUNITIES to learn rather than occassions to win or lose. When you do this, it opens us up to new possibilities and can increase our sense of self-acceptance. Be out of you comfort zone if you are given an opportunity. You may be asked to do a task and a timeline to finish the task on top of your already tight schedule. Take it as a challenge. Do not dwell of “Why is it me who is always being asked?”. Take is as a challenge and with the many challenges that come along the way, you would have learned and accumulated self-acceptance and self-respect of yourself and in so doing, your confidence.

By not doing so, turns every possibility into an opportunity for failure and inhibits personal growth.

Confidence

Maintaining a positive attitude is important in every aspect of our lives.

Elenor Roosevelt often said … “No one can make you feel inferior without your permission”

You see, NO ONE can give away your self-respect UNLESS you let them!!

Most of us, no matter how succcessful we are, carry a mental suitcase full of negative messages about ourselves. These may come from parents, teachers, bosses, colleagues, friends, neighbours or even our own imaginations. We have the capacity to recolor these messages and make positive beliefs our conscious choices.

So BEGIN TODAY to picture positive images of yourselves from others and HOLD TIGHTLY to them. Ink this in a notebook to collect acknowledgments, thank you notes, good reviews and evaluations as evidence of our abilities.

“BEING CONFIDENT IS ABOUT ELIMINATING FEAR”

Food for Thought - The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated” - William James

Your Truly

Nancy

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Hi it’s me again.

Yesterday I talk about the five drivers for success. Today I will talk on the 6 Types of Negative Behaviors and Attitudes and how best to deal with them.

Many of us fall into this catergory one way or another but as long as we are aware of it, we should be moving forward.

The 6 Types of Negative Behaviors and Attitudes are:-

1] Nay-Sayers

These people are habitually negative and have a pessimistic view of the world. They are generally angry, depressed and frustrated individuals. They continually criticize others and complain often.

How then do we deal with them? ….. KEEP your contact at a minimum, and let them know how their attitude affects you!

2] “Immovables”

These are people who resist change, either outwardly or in a passive aggressive way. They might agree to the change, but sabotage the implementation of it.

What should we do? …… Appeal to their nobler motives, involve them in the change and seal an agreement of the change and the role they play in implementing the new ideas.

3] Nine-to-Fivers

The above is self explanatory. These people work nine to five - nothing less. They are quick to tell you that something is not their job. They are referred to as “C” players. They do the minimum to get by and get their paycheck.

How can we tackle them? …. Provide them with opportunities and growth and give them encouragement and recognition for small tasks that can help turn them around and increase their level of commitment.

4] Gossipers

These people find joy in getting into everyone else’s business and creating diversions by spreading rumors. Their pettiness may be a sign that they are lonely, and work is one of their only source of interaction.

Oh, oh, now what ? Is there a solution?? .. Yes, Don’t encourage these people by contributing to the gossip. Deal only with facts and evidence.

5] “Violinists”

What is your perception of these people? Are they the musicians … violinists? No, these are people who have a general “woe is me” attitude. They may stay late or do extra work, but they complain about the workload. They are constantly telling others how busy they are, and how other things take priority over what you need them to focus.

Solution? …. Acknowledge their hard work and providing recognition and appreciation regarding their contributions is helpful in dealing with these types of people

6] “Blamers”

The individuals as the name suggest are quick to point the finger at anyone else but themselves when mistakes have been made. Also known as scapegoats, these people always have an answer why they are not accountable for the error.

The best way to deal with these people is to have a clearly defined set of expectations and responsibilities so that when errors do arise, there are facts to back up the breakdown in the process. It is also helpful to admit your own similar mistakes to help reduce the embarassment they might feel.

Food for Thought - One of the chief reasons for sucess in life is the ability to maintain a daily interest in one’s word; to have a chronic enthusiasm; to regard each day as important - William Lyon Phelps

That is about all. Catch up with you all in my next post.

To Your Success

Nancy

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Hi there,

I was just reading through some materials by Dale Carnegie on his book on “How to Win Friends and Influence People” given by a good friend of mine which really inspire me.

I would like to share with you extracts from the material which I hope will inspire you as much as it has inspire me :-

HOW DO WE GAIN COOPERATION

1. Self Confidence

Confidence is trust or faith that a person or thing is capable. Self Confidence is having confidence in oneself. In a world where risk, challenge, competition and change go hand-in hand, self-confidence is the competitive edge. You must build your confidence and stretch your comfort zone and that means, to get out from the area you are most comfortable in. You must be confident in dealing with negativity in the workplace, and as a leader build the confidence in other to help them be more enthusiastic and positive.

2. People Skills

People skills are an essential ingredient for professional and personal success. Win enthusiastic cooperation instead of a mere compliance. Turn a “NO” into a “YES” and be diplomatic under pressure.

3. Communication

Communication allows people to exchange information. It is the exchange of thoughts, messages, or information, as by speech, signals, writing, or behavior.Leaders should learn by demonstrating effective questioning and listening skills. They should understand that even the negative associate can offer insights and innovations that add value.
4. Leadership

Leadership is “the ability of an individual to influence, motivate and enable others to contribute toward the effectiveness and success of the organizations of which they are members or “to inspire people from a variety of backgrounds to a higher level of performance”.

The leader should be more flexible, enthusiastic, open and approachable. With this skills, cooperation from others will be gained.

WAYS TO WIN ENTHUSIASTIC COOPERATION BY WINNING PEOPLE TO YOU WAY OF THINKING

a] To get the best of an argument - avoid it

b] Show respect for the other person’s opinion. Never tell a person he or she is wrong

c] If you are wrong, admit it quickly, emphatically

d] Begin in a friendly manner

e] Get the other person saying “yes” immediately

f] Let the other person do a great deal of the talking

g] Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view

h] Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires

i] Appeal to the nobler motives

5. Worry and Stress

Word Tutor defines worry and stress as “A physical, chemical, or emotional event that causes bodily or mental tension”. In simple terms, it mean ‘to feel uneasy or concerned about something; be troubled’.

The ability to face challenging situations with a constructive attitude is a determining success factor for all of us. A Leader should strive to help reduce worry, stress and tension so that he can maintain a more optimistic approach to dealing with negativity in the workplace.

In my next post, I will go deeper into the different Types of Negative Behaviors and Attitudes and How Do We Deal with them

Hope you enjoy reading them. I would be please if you could leave a response below.

Food for Thought … ” You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” - Dale Carnegie

To Your Success

Dale Carnegie

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Hi there, it’s me again. Today is my last day of this seminar. I am a newbie in Internet Marketing. Boy, yesterday was confusing but today it is still confusing but much better of course. I am seeing things clearer now and improving in my computer skills. I learn new words like blog, creating a website though still not very good with it, traffic, forum , looking at wordpress and many others.

We were taught step by step hands on methods. Jason and the other IMAW team members, Chun, Chin, Zainab, not forgetting the youngest Lim, has been very dedicated and patient with our group of 14 although some of us have stretched them to their limits asking same questions over and over. I for one is slow and not savvy in computer but am slowly but surely learning.

They have been very helpful and assists us when we are caught up with problem.

As I have said earlier, I have no knowledge on internet marketing but find this workshop benefited me tremendously. I believe that Internet Marketing can help me to accelerate my way to wealth. Given hardwork and perserverance, I believe one can suceed in Internet Marketing.

I would recommend this Hand’s On Workshop by Jason and the IMAW team to anyone who wants to know about Internet Marketing. The IMAW team has given the assurance and are committed to ensure that our group of 14 succeeds! I am sure all of us will strive and make it happen.

We ended our session today all very tired past midnight.

To Your Success

Nancy

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Nancy