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A friend of my recommended me to watch this video and since then I’ve been watching it daily. I simply love it and would like to share it with you all.

This video is created by Sonia Ricotti. It is about Dreams/Goals, Inspiration, Motivation, Law of Attraction. The many inspirational quotes are simply awesome.

Hope this video will inspire you as much as it did for me.

Food for thought - “Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal” … Henry Ford

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Nancy

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Hi there

Following my earlier posts on the 7 types of listeners, below are some principles of listening.

1. Maintain eye contact with the person talking

2. Be sentitive to what is not being said

3. Observe body language for incongruent messages

4. Practice patience; speak only after the other person is finished

5. Do not interrupt, finish the speaker’s sentence, or change the subject

6. Listen to learn; pretend there will be a quiz at the end of the speaker’s sentence

7. Clarify any uncertainties after they have spoken

8. Make sure you understood what was said by rephrasing what you heard

9. Don’t jump to conclusions or make assumptions; keep an open and accepting attitude

10. Practice pure listening; remove all distractions and minimize internal and external filters

11. Turn off your mind and “be with” the speaker; try to see things from their perspective

Whether you are the listener or the speaker, with practice and being aware of the above pointers, we will no doubt be able to achieve and become an “engagers ” listener.

As the saying goes, practice makes perrrrrfect!

Food for thought - “At the end of our lives, we don’t regret the things at which we failed - we regret the things we wished for but never attempted” - Robin Sieger

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Hello there,

I came across this article and found it very interesting and thought I would like to share with you.

This article commented that typically, a woman can use an average of 6 listening expressions in a ten-second period to reflect, and then feed back the speaker’s emotions. Her face will mirror the emotions being expressed by the speaker. To someone watching, it can almost look as if the events being discussed are happening to both women.

Below is a typical ten-second sequence of a woman showing she is listening:-

A woman reads the meaning of what is being said through voice intonation and the speaker’s body language. This is exactly what a man needs to do to capture a woman’s attention and keep her listening. Most men are daunted by the prospect of using facial feedback while listening, but it pays big dividends for the man who becomes adept at the art.

On the other hand, men appears to listen like statues. This is because the biological objective of our male warrior when listening was to remain impassive, so as not to betray his emotions.

Here are the same range of facial expressions used by a man in a ten-second listening periods.

This is a light-hearted look at male listening technique, but recognising the truth in the humour gives it edge. This emotionless mask that men use while listening allows them to feel in control of the situation, but does not mean a man does not experience emotions. Brain scans reveal that men feel emotion as strongly as women, but avoid showing it.
Food for thought - “Those who try doing something and fail are infinitely better than those who try and do nothing and suceed” - Richard Bird

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Hi there

Yesterday I talk about the 7 types of listeners and how we can improve ourselves if we belong to this group of listeners. We talk about instances that if we are “preoccupied” listeners, then we must make it a point to set aside what we are doing when someone is speaking to us so that conversations can be achieved.

What about situations where are talking to this group of people, let’s say the “preopcupied” to start of? How then do we deal with this group of people? The following are ways that will help us deal with them when talking to them.

1. The “Preoccupied”

When dealing with a preoccupied listener, begin with a statement that will get their attention, be brief and get to the bottom line quickly because their attention span is short. You might ask, “Is this a good time?” or perhaps say “I need our undivided attention for just a moment.’

2. The ‘Out-to-Lunches”

Check in with them every now and again and ask if they understood what you were saying . As with the “preoccupieds”, begin with a statement that will catch their attention, and be concise and to the point because their attention span is short.

3. The “Interrupters”

As for interrupters, when they chime in, stop immediately and let them talk, or they will never listen to you. When they are done, you might say “as I was saying before…..” to bring their interruption to their attentions.

4. The ” Whatevers”

When dealing with a “whatevers. ” , you must dramatize your ideas and ask questions of them to get their involvement.

5. The “Combatives”

For the “combatives”, when they disagree or point the blame, look forward instead of back. Talk about how you might agree to disagree, or what can be done differently next time.

6. The “Analysts”

You might want to say, “I just need to run something by you, I’m not looking for any advice, ” when dealing with an “analyst”.

This concludes the topic on the types of listener; how do we improve ourselves if we belonged to this grouping and how do we deal with them if we are faced with such listeners. Of course, it will be good if we can achieve to be a “engagers” listener as “engagers” listen with their eyes, ears and hearts and try to put themselves in the speaker’s shoes. Not only that, they listen at the highest level and their listening skills encourage one to continue talking and give one the opportunity to discover one’s own solution and let one’s ideas unfold.

Food for thought - ” I am one, but only one. I cannot do everything; but I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do” - Edward Everett Hale

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Hi there, Good Morning

Have anyone ever complain that you are not listening to what they are talking or saying? Or perhaps you always want to provide an answer even when you are not asked?

If the answer is yes, then the following are ways on how to deal with it and improve yourself so that effective communication can be achieved.

1. The “Preoccupieds”

These people come across as rushed and are constantly looking around and doing something else. They are also known as multi-taskers and cannot sit still and listen.

2. The “Out-to Lunchers”

These people are physically there for you but mentally they are not. They can be identified by the blank face on their faces. They are either daydreaming or thinking about everything and anything else but what you are saying.

If you are an out-to-luncher, act like a good listener. Be alert, maintain eye contact, lean forward and show interest by asking questions.

3. The “Interrupters”

These people are ready to chime in any one time. They are perched and ready for a break to complete your sentence for you. They are not listening to you but focussed instead on what they want to say.

If you are an interrupter, make a point to apologise every time you catch yourself interrupting. This will make you more conscious of it.

4. The “Whatevers”

These are people who remain aloof and show little emotion when listening. They often give the impression that they could care less what you are talking about.

If you are a ‘whatever’, try to concentrate on the full message, not just the verbal message. Also, make it a point to listen with your eyes, ears and heart.

5. The “Combatives”

These are people who are always armed and ready to war. They love and enjoy disagreeing and blaming others without any reason.

If your are a ‘combative’ listener, make an effort put yourself in the speaker’s shoes and understand, accept and find merit in their point of view.

6. The “Analysts”

These are people who are constantly in the role of counselor or therapist and are always ready to provide you with answers even when you have not asked. They think they are great listeners and love to help.

They are constantly in an-analyse-what-you-are saying and fix-it-mode.

If your are an analyst, relax and understand that not everyone is looking for an answer, solution, or advice. Some people just like bouncing ideas off others to help them see the answers more clearly themselves.

7. The “Engagers”

These are the consciously aware listeners. They listen with their eyes, ears and hearts and try to put themselves in the speaker’s shoes. This is listening at the highest level. Their listerning skills encourage you to continue talking and give you the opportunity to discover your own solutions and let your ideas unfold.

Food for thought - “History has repeatly been changed by people who had the desire and the ability to transfer their conviction and emotions to their listeners.” - Dale Carnegie

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Hi

My topic for today is Developing Trust & Collaboration.

In order for people to trust us, we have to earn their trust. How then do we develop Trust?

The following are ways to gain/develop trust:-

1. Listen sincerely- show sincere interest with your ears, eyes and heart.

2. Ask questions. By asking questions, you show your genuine interest and care in other people and their point of view

3. Reveal your thoughts and feelings. Share your experiences with them. Show skills when doing work, teach them, if needed. This will create closer rapport with your team.

4. Be yourself, show that there is congruency between your words and action

5. Meet all commitments ie deliver what you promise, when you promise it

6 Act on what you have heard

7. Be available at all times

8. Provide support to the team

9. Make balanced judgements

10. Provide reliable information

11. Act genuinely, morally, honestly and with intergrity

Food For Thought - “Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest sound in any language; it is the badge of indviduality - Dale Carnegie

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Nancy

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Hi there,

It’s me again. I’ve been away and have not been updating my site.

Today is a very special day and to all of you visiting this site, here’s “Wishing U not just smiles but laughter, not just joys but happiness, not just wishes but wealth, not just peace but serenity, not just good health but enjoyment and not just blessings but fulfillment!! Also, Wishing You and your loved ones a Blessed Christmas and A Very Wonderful 2008!!”

With this, I would like share with you a Christmas puzzle I received from a friend through email. This puzzle belonged to Jacquie Lawson, an English artist living in the picturesque village of Lurgashall in Southern England. She has created many beautiful e-cards and especially this Christmas puzzle which I enjoy fixing most. My kids love it and it is fun and easy!

Try this out

Tomorrow I will be touching on Developing Trust and Collaboration by Dale Carnegie.

Till then see you!

Once again, A BLESSED CHRISTMAS TO YOU!

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