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Hi All

I cannot but say how fortunate I am. I have been receiving inspirational movies through emails which really moved me and it seemed that the year for 2008 is a year full of inspirations, aspirations, motivations and goals.

There is nothing to stop a person from gaining success. Blindness did not stop “Stevie Wonder” from earning fame and fortune. Any limitations placed are done by the people themselves.

“Sometimes, I think my blindness is a blessing” he said. “Maybe without this handicap, I would not have acquired this gift of music. People say that I am blind but through my music I see”

Stevie, as he is fondly known in the entertainment world, became blind after he was born because of a mishap at the hospital. Shortly afterwards, Stevie’s father left. His mother had to work as a cleaner to raise Stevie. The grateful son promised his mother that he would repay her love and sacrifices. Despite his handicap, Stevie promised to find a way. He did. Through his music, Stevie expressed himself and achieved success and repaid his mother’s devotion.

We should ask ourselves, if Stevie can do it with his limitations, so can YOU!

With this, I wold like to share this inspirational movie with you.

It is based on the song “I Raise You Up” by Josh Groban. The lyrics are beautiful and inspirational. However, please ignore the pictures if it’s not pleasing to you but rather let the message shines through.

Hope you enjoy this video

Food for thought - “Within you right now is the power to do things you never dreamed possible. This power becomes available just as soon as you can change your beliefs” ….. Maxwell Maltz

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Truly yours

Nancy

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Hello there

Many of us would like to discover a magic recipe for success. A formula that can bestow wealth, joy and happiness on its finder. The world would have been a better place if we can just get this ‘magic’ formula.

On looking closer, it can be revealed that there is actually no ‘magic’ formula to success but the secret for success boiled down to being a winner.

Winners come in shapes an sizes but all have this in common; they have achieved their own personal goal by following four natural principles of success:

A clear goal

A definite plan

Confidence

No fear of failure

It is common that when we see a successful person, we tend to only see their success; never their struggles in journey. If we look closer, we will see evidence of the above four principles on these successful person. The reality is that the basic ingredients of achievement are neither complex or obscure. We are all born with them. We need only to start believing in them and then the magic begins.

With this, I would like to share an inspirational tape with you entitled ‘Don’t Quit’. It’s very inspirational and motivating.

I am sure you will love it. Here it goes:-

Food for thought - “Don’t let fear of failure stop you from trying to reach your goal for there is no shame in failing, the only shame is never trying”

Success - Your Choice

Truly yours

Nancy

Hi there

Often, we asked ourselves, what are our goals? Why do we need goals? What are goals, anyway? Try visualising this, getting out of bed in the morning, leaving your house not knowing where you are going or maybe not knowing what you are going to do the whole day?

Now look again. Can you see where you are heading for the year, the next 5 years and the remaining years of your life? If you are heading anywhere, you must have an understanding of what goals are and what they serve.

Goals are the result or achievement toward which effort is directed. Success requires endeavors, endeavors require direction or goals, and goals are the desired outcome.

For true success, you need to feel a desire to reach your goal that is so great that it occupies both your head and your heart. So start setting your GOALS now! Set your goals not only in your mind but also in your heart. How should we set our goals then?

1. Goals must be specific. It should be well defined and measurable. Personal goals should take into account a person’s interest, skills, values and abilities

2. Goals must be realistic. Only when goals are realistic and attainable can they serve to provide motivation and commitment a person needs to achieve them

3. Goals must be planned. Giving your goals down in writing gives them form and life. Drawing up a plan to achieve it provides it with meaning and Acting on it gives it life.

4. Goals must be exciting because it deals with your future

5. Don’t set goals based on egos as these goals provides little fulfillment and little sense of achievement. Goals that are build on ego cannot be gratified as they thrive on pleasing others instead of themselves.

6. Don’t get into habit of setting temporary goals; tentative goals are all right if you are venturing into something too risky to plunge in. Lack of urgency may set in. Because it is a tentative goal, one may hold back action and even be indecisive in making actions leading to complacency

How does setting goals benefit you?

1. It gives meaning to life and provide one with a specific direction to travel in the journey of life

2. It helps determine your priorities in life.

3. It provides you with a sense of achievement. Accomplishing goals is one of the most gratifying experiences in the goal setting process. It is what all activities and all energy are focused upon: getting the desired result. After all this time working on this goal, alone or in a team, and after overcoming all kinds of unexpected obstacles it has at last produced result - Success!

4. It adds as a platform for your human development and growth and set a stage for your self-improvement

5. It develops discipline and allows utilization and time management for better benefit and other meaningful use

6. It implant in you the commitment, enthusiasm, drive and motivation to meet challenges

7. It helps build up your confidence, one can act promptly without hesitation

Food for thought - “There is only the moment. The now. Only what you are experiencing at this second is real. This does not mean you live for the moment. It means you live in the moment” … Leo Buscaglia

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Truly Yours

Nancy

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Hi there

A friend of my recommended me to watch this video and since then I’ve been watching it daily. I simply love it and would like to share it with you all.

This video is created by Sonia Ricotti. It is about Dreams/Goals, Inspiration, Motivation, Law of Attraction. The many inspirational quotes are simply awesome.

Hope this video will inspire you as much as it did for me.

Food for thought - “Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal” … Henry Ford

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Nancy

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Hi there

Following my earlier posts on the 7 types of listeners, below are some principles of listening.

1. Maintain eye contact with the person talking

2. Be sentitive to what is not being said

3. Observe body language for incongruent messages

4. Practice patience; speak only after the other person is finished

5. Do not interrupt, finish the speaker’s sentence, or change the subject

6. Listen to learn; pretend there will be a quiz at the end of the speaker’s sentence

7. Clarify any uncertainties after they have spoken

8. Make sure you understood what was said by rephrasing what you heard

9. Don’t jump to conclusions or make assumptions; keep an open and accepting attitude

10. Practice pure listening; remove all distractions and minimize internal and external filters

11. Turn off your mind and “be with” the speaker; try to see things from their perspective

Whether you are the listener or the speaker, with practice and being aware of the above pointers, we will no doubt be able to achieve and become an “engagers ” listener.

As the saying goes, practice makes perrrrrfect!

Food for thought - “At the end of our lives, we don’t regret the things at which we failed - we regret the things we wished for but never attempted” - Robin Sieger

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Nancy

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Hello there,

I came across this article and found it very interesting and thought I would like to share with you.

This article commented that typically, a woman can use an average of 6 listening expressions in a ten-second period to reflect, and then feed back the speaker’s emotions. Her face will mirror the emotions being expressed by the speaker. To someone watching, it can almost look as if the events being discussed are happening to both women.

Below is a typical ten-second sequence of a woman showing she is listening:-

A woman reads the meaning of what is being said through voice intonation and the speaker’s body language. This is exactly what a man needs to do to capture a woman’s attention and keep her listening. Most men are daunted by the prospect of using facial feedback while listening, but it pays big dividends for the man who becomes adept at the art.

On the other hand, men appears to listen like statues. This is because the biological objective of our male warrior when listening was to remain impassive, so as not to betray his emotions.

Here are the same range of facial expressions used by a man in a ten-second listening periods.

This is a light-hearted look at male listening technique, but recognising the truth in the humour gives it edge. This emotionless mask that men use while listening allows them to feel in control of the situation, but does not mean a man does not experience emotions. Brain scans reveal that men feel emotion as strongly as women, but avoid showing it.
Food for thought - “Those who try doing something and fail are infinitely better than those who try and do nothing and suceed” - Richard Bird

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Nancy

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Hi there

Yesterday I talk about the 7 types of listeners and how we can improve ourselves if we belong to this group of listeners. We talk about instances that if we are “preoccupied” listeners, then we must make it a point to set aside what we are doing when someone is speaking to us so that conversations can be achieved.

What about situations where are talking to this group of people, let’s say the “preopcupied” to start of? How then do we deal with this group of people? The following are ways that will help us deal with them when talking to them.

1. The “Preoccupied”

When dealing with a preoccupied listener, begin with a statement that will get their attention, be brief and get to the bottom line quickly because their attention span is short. You might ask, “Is this a good time?” or perhaps say “I need our undivided attention for just a moment.’

2. The ‘Out-to-Lunches”

Check in with them every now and again and ask if they understood what you were saying . As with the “preoccupieds”, begin with a statement that will catch their attention, and be concise and to the point because their attention span is short.

3. The “Interrupters”

As for interrupters, when they chime in, stop immediately and let them talk, or they will never listen to you. When they are done, you might say “as I was saying before…..” to bring their interruption to their attentions.

4. The ” Whatevers”

When dealing with a “whatevers. ” , you must dramatize your ideas and ask questions of them to get their involvement.

5. The “Combatives”

For the “combatives”, when they disagree or point the blame, look forward instead of back. Talk about how you might agree to disagree, or what can be done differently next time.

6. The “Analysts”

You might want to say, “I just need to run something by you, I’m not looking for any advice, ” when dealing with an “analyst”.

This concludes the topic on the types of listener; how do we improve ourselves if we belonged to this grouping and how do we deal with them if we are faced with such listeners. Of course, it will be good if we can achieve to be a “engagers” listener as “engagers” listen with their eyes, ears and hearts and try to put themselves in the speaker’s shoes. Not only that, they listen at the highest level and their listening skills encourage one to continue talking and give one the opportunity to discover one’s own solution and let one’s ideas unfold.

Food for thought - ” I am one, but only one. I cannot do everything; but I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do” - Edward Everett Hale

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Truly yours

Nancy

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Hi there, Good Morning

Have anyone ever complain that you are not listening to what they are talking or saying? Or perhaps you always want to provide an answer even when you are not asked?

If the answer is yes, then the following are ways on how to deal with it and improve yourself so that effective communication can be achieved.

1. The “Preoccupieds”

These people come across as rushed and are constantly looking around and doing something else. They are also known as multi-taskers and cannot sit still and listen.

2. The “Out-to Lunchers”

These people are physically there for you but mentally they are not. They can be identified by the blank face on their faces. They are either daydreaming or thinking about everything and anything else but what you are saying.

If you are an out-to-luncher, act like a good listener. Be alert, maintain eye contact, lean forward and show interest by asking questions.

3. The “Interrupters”

These people are ready to chime in any one time. They are perched and ready for a break to complete your sentence for you. They are not listening to you but focussed instead on what they want to say.

If you are an interrupter, make a point to apologise every time you catch yourself interrupting. This will make you more conscious of it.

4. The “Whatevers”

These are people who remain aloof and show little emotion when listening. They often give the impression that they could care less what you are talking about.

If you are a ‘whatever’, try to concentrate on the full message, not just the verbal message. Also, make it a point to listen with your eyes, ears and heart.

5. The “Combatives”

These are people who are always armed and ready to war. They love and enjoy disagreeing and blaming others without any reason.

If your are a ‘combative’ listener, make an effort put yourself in the speaker’s shoes and understand, accept and find merit in their point of view.

6. The “Analysts”

These are people who are constantly in the role of counselor or therapist and are always ready to provide you with answers even when you have not asked. They think they are great listeners and love to help.

They are constantly in an-analyse-what-you-are saying and fix-it-mode.

If your are an analyst, relax and understand that not everyone is looking for an answer, solution, or advice. Some people just like bouncing ideas off others to help them see the answers more clearly themselves.

7. The “Engagers”

These are the consciously aware listeners. They listen with their eyes, ears and hearts and try to put themselves in the speaker’s shoes. This is listening at the highest level. Their listerning skills encourage you to continue talking and give you the opportunity to discover your own solutions and let your ideas unfold.

Food for thought - “History has repeatly been changed by people who had the desire and the ability to transfer their conviction and emotions to their listeners.” - Dale Carnegie

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Nancy

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Hi

My topic for today is Developing Trust & Collaboration.

In order for people to trust us, we have to earn their trust. How then do we develop Trust?

The following are ways to gain/develop trust:-

1. Listen sincerely- show sincere interest with your ears, eyes and heart.

2. Ask questions. By asking questions, you show your genuine interest and care in other people and their point of view

3. Reveal your thoughts and feelings. Share your experiences with them. Show skills when doing work, teach them, if needed. This will create closer rapport with your team.

4. Be yourself, show that there is congruency between your words and action

5. Meet all commitments ie deliver what you promise, when you promise it

6 Act on what you have heard

7. Be available at all times

8. Provide support to the team

9. Make balanced judgements

10. Provide reliable information

11. Act genuinely, morally, honestly and with intergrity

Food For Thought - “Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest sound in any language; it is the badge of indviduality - Dale Carnegie

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Yours Truly

Nancy

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Hi there

Today I am going to move away from my topic on self development to a topic which is also interesting. I was reading an article when this topic ‘Why Men Should Drive at Night’ caught my attention.

I always have difficulty driving at night and after reading this article, it sort of make sense to me why women find this so.

In this article by Allan and Babara Pease, they mention that while woman can see better in the dark than a man, especially at the red end of the spectrum, a man’s eyes allow for better long-distance vision over a narrower field, which gives him much better - and therefore safer - long-distance night vision than a woman.

Combined with his right brain spatial ability, a man can separate and identify the movement of other vehicles on the road ahead and behind. Most women can testify to what is a kind of night blindness; the inability to distinguish which side of the road approaching traffic is on. This is a task that a man’s hunting vision is equipped to handle. What this means is on long trips, men should drive at night and women drive in the day.

The article further said that men suffer greater eyestrain than women because their eyes are configured for long distances and must be constantly readjusted to look at a computer screen or read a newspaper. A woman ’s eyes are better suited for close-range activities, giving her a longer working time on fine detail. As such, an average woman is excellent at threading a needle and reading detail on a computer screen as her brain is wired for coordinated fine-motor capability in a small area.

If you find this topic refreshing, do leave a comment below.

I will touch on ways to establish credibility in furtherance to my earlier blog on building self-confidence in my next post.

Yours truly,

Nancy

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